As much as we all feel that we want a Sweetheart, it is darned scary to actually put yourself out there. So often when I tell people what I do, I get responses that sound like, *Oh, that is so interesting, I’d love to hear more about it. I really would like to find a mate, BUT….* and then come a zillion reasons why they haven’t or won’t.

If you are reading this, you probably are at least THINKING about going looking. But take a half step towards it, and your fears jump forward, ready to trip you and beat you back over the line to safety.

I want to hear more! Send me (diana@loveawake.com) any reason that you can think of why you shouldn’t go about finding yourself a Sweetie.

50 Ways to BLEEP Your Lover!

  • I have to lose a few pounds first.
  • I just started a new job and am too stressed.
  • I just lost my job and am too stressed.
  • I have to pay off a few bills first.
  • I want to wait ’til my kids are out of the house (they are 6 and 10 now).
  • My parents just died and I need to heal for the next 20 years.
  • I have no track record with eligible and appropriate men so why ruin a perfect record?
  • I might get a nibble with the cyberdating thing and then what excuse would I have!
  • Yeah, I may have lost 51 pounds, but I still have 30 to go and I never found the profile that says their ideal date has 5 pounds of extra skin on her belly!
  • I might have to go to funeral in two weeks.
  • I have to shampoo my hair.
  • I have to shampoo my dog.
  • I have to shampoo my carpet.
  • Since my wife left me, I’m not sure whether I’m most attracted to men, women, or animals…
  • I might actually get what I say I want, and then what?
  • But then again, I don’t know what I want, so that shouldn’t be a problem.
  • I just don’t have time right now to get into a relationship. (But of course I won’t give up my soaps and romance novels.)
  • It is not the time to try and blend a family.
  • Men can’t be trusted.
  • They’re already married.
  • If they are nice, they are gay.
  • They are still living with Mom.
  • I sure would like to have a partner, but I like things just the way they are.
  • I’d have to take off my clothes?
  • I want to love and be loved, but that means caring and risking getting hurt, and I don’t want to get hurt.
  • I’d never be able to make space in my closet.
  • I don’t want to give up my freedom, have to account to anyone.
  • I wouldn’t want anyone who would want me.
  • You mean, go on a date? I haven’t been on a date in 23 years!
  • I don’t have time.
  • I’d have to clean my house.
  • What would I wear?
  • And make my dog sleep on the floor?
  • I have to walk the cats.
  • My library needs reorganizing.
  • I have to cross-index my videos and DVDs.
  • I have to mow the lawn first.
  • My belly button is full of lint!
  • Still healing from a previous relationship breakup (never mind that it has been 4 years!!)
  • My ex wouldn’t like it.
  • He says that this time, he’ll leave his wife as soon as she has the baby.
  • My roommate is more attractive than I am.
  • I don’t have ESPN.
  • My tan has faded.
  • I’m waiting for the sale at Victoria’s Secret.

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Diana started her career writing Sailor Moon fan fiction for her webpage in the school library. She enjoys young adult novels, cats, Dance Moms, and telling people she gets paid to work on social media all day.